– April 02 - 2017
Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past 13 years studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame.
In her latest book, Rising Strong, Brené Brown talks about resilience and the ability to rise after falling. She has also created a curriculum to support the book and help us learn how to get back up after we fall, to overcome our mistakes, and face hurt in a way that brings more wisdom and wholeheartedness.
I have dieted for most of my adult life, and it is only since becoming a member of the community here at FM that I have found a way to live my life in a healthy and sustainable way. Yet I still fall. We all do. Any time we make ourselves vulnerable or put ourselves out in the world and try something new, falling comes with the territory.
When we have a larger conversation around health and wellness, we are vulnerable. We may ask ourselves, “Why would we continue to risk emotional exposure when we know we will fall?” Because after we fall, we rise.
It is during the process of rising that we learn the lessons and the wisdom that are so vital to life. We learn resilience, we learn to overcome barriers, we grow, and we change. We become better, healthier versions of ourselves.
I have a history of binge eating disorder and though I have not engaged in a binge in quite some time (due in large part to learning to think about food in less “all-or-nothing” terms, and in learning to practice radical self-acceptance,) I did last night. Whether it was due to fatigue, stress, or reverting to old “stinking thinking,” I have not fully processed yet, but I do know this: I will rise. I have already begun. I have learned that part of rising means talking to myself kindly. (If talking horribly to ourselves had any health benefit, we would all be incredibly healthy by now.) I understand that yesterday was one day in a long journey of days and it does not define me. What does define me is the overcoming of it.
So… Try something new. Stretch yourself, grow and change–and fall. Because without falling, we cannot rise, and rising is what life is all about. Redefining your long-term health and wellness is not a short-term outcome. It takes practice, patience, conversation, and thought.
Reach out to your coach and have a dialogue about what the lessons might be in your falls, and if you want to take part in the Rising Strong curriculum and integrate more of Brené Brown’s work into your journey, we will be offering it on Thursday nights at FitMetabolism from 6:30 to 8:00 p.m. beginning the second week of April. Join us: rise with us.